Inheritance is a funny thing

As my mom would call this picture, like mother like daughter. Sou and I on our "hang out in town day".

As my mom would call this picture, “like mother like daughter”. Sou and I on our “hang out in town day”.

My mom says I write about Sou and the organization too much but let’s be honest, that’s been my life this last month and a half. It’s been an honor to be here and get to be a part of all that’s going on here. I’m always surprised at what God can do in such a short amount of time. Sou feels like a mom to me and I’m pretty sure (from her words) that I feel like a daughter to her. I often think, her daughter, also Hannah, and I are either the same person or they just miss her a lot as I seem to remind them of her.

Last month, I read through Deuteronomy, which is a book very intriguing to me. If laws aren’t about the letter but about the Spirit, then, this book is exactly what will perplex you enough to discover the Spirit as it is a book of laws. It talks about how Israelites were going to get an inheritance that they never earned because really, how do you actually earn an inheritance. Inheritance is about relationships and what flows from those relationships.

I probably should have learned this from my own family but it’s when you are taken out of your own element that you can start to see the very things you are missing. I feel utterly blessed because it’s true, I’m standing upon the shoulders of the leaders here. I don’t have to discover all over again what they have already gained and what they have already learned. I think any sort of successful business is probably like that.

It’s especially in the small things that I get to see this. For example, Ted and Sou have gone through their struggles and hard times where they did their own dishes, cleaned their own house, built things from the ground up so to speak; however, now their operations with FCOP International have grown so large that they had to delegate some tasks. But if I’m frank, from what I’ve noticed, the people that are completing the tasks don’t do it for money or some kind of earthly reward, they are simply expressing the depths of their hearts and their gratitude for all that they’ve done.

So, back to my point, I’ve been here and I don’t always have to do my own dishes, have to cook or have to clean my own messes. It’s not because of their (the workers) love for me or what I can offer but what has already been afforded to them through Ted and Sou. They have treated me like a daughter and so now I get to reap the benefits. What did I do to afford this? Absolutely nothing. I just lived as who I am, daughter of God and somehow that afforded me additional earthly parents here in Cambodia in the stead of my parents back in America. Because Ted and Sou have loved and trusted me, it’s like they can do. Relationships are funny but for that reason inheritance is even funnier.

I’ve had a great life inheriting from others things that I myself have not earned. I had food and places to live based on the earnings of my parents. I went to college to get degrees by what others have researched and already discovered and tested. I went into companies that were already established. My resume is built upon people and organizations that have already done the hard work, so to speak. It is in realizing what kind of inheritance you are gaining that you truly know the right starting point and your projection of what is to come. Also, then, you can truly appreciate all that you have instead of focusing on all that you don’t have. If you know me, you know I hate rework, so why take the time to do redundant tasks when you could be propelling forward?

“And when the Lord your God brings you into the land that he swore to your fathers… with great and good cities that you did not build, and houses full of all good things that you did not fill, and cisterns that you did not dig, and vineyards and olive trees that you did not plant..take care lest you forget the Lord” – Deuteronomy 6:10-12


If you want something done right, do it yourself


Sou showing us how dragonfruit cutting is done

Sou showing us how dragonfruit cutting is done

Ok, let me first caveat this with your way isn’t always the only way and your way isn’t always the right way. Also, what works isn’t always right either, it’s just enough.

So this past week has been slightly frustrating. Incredibly rewarding but frustrating nonetheless. I have been on the phone with at least eight different countries and many parties were involved in this whole shindig. We were setting up for a large international conference and there were so many odds and ends details that needed to be settled when it came down to the wire. I was working with the hotel, the tour agency, the church organization and the organization I was working with.

Many moments, it felt like there were too many cooks in the kitchen and at the same time, it felt like not enough. Information was sporadic and held in too many places making it incredibly difficult to find out what I actually needed to know or even know what I needed to know. It’s amazing and an utter miracle that we pulled this off in such a short amount of time. The event went seamless and no one even noticed the little mishaps. However, I find that when you are working in a spirit of excellence and doing all you can, there’s an incredible grace to cover those mistakes.

Anyway, back to the subject. Many times, we either had a lack of information, misinformation or miscommunication. In the end, what I found is that even if I delegated the job, it wouldn’t have been done right simply from lack of training or an inability to communicate accurately how it needs to be done. This is where that funky title comes from.

You can’t ask someone to do something that they have never seen before or you are a sure winner of disappointment. Just like children grow up learning from their environment, everyone is the same even when older. Life is a learning process. We are continuously learning. We need our environments and the people around us to teach us the way things are done and done right. There are levels of right and of excellence so make sure we are all growing in that as well with the people around us that know more and have experienced more.

So that brings me back to the point, if you want things done the right way that you know others have not experienced, make sure you’re the first to try it out. Show others what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Demonstrate the fruit of the results. Make it a replicable process but also one that allows growth in another by allowing them to input their creativity to make what you have given them even better. This is where I have trouble with internships. Many people need an extra hand that they don’t want to pay full price for or even at all, not an intern. An intern means that you know how to do their job better than the interns do. You have to be a teacher, demonstrating all that needs to be done. An intern means you have learning that is valuable for them to get from you! So let’s get real. Don’t be frustrated that someone isn’t doing something right or better, simply show them the higher road!

“let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance” Proverbs 1:5